I cringe when I look back at pictures of my home from when I first started blogging. It was dark and cluttered and mismatched, and not in a good way.
At one point I listened to a friend who helped me pick out a bunch of things for my home. Even though I wasn't really feeling what was picked out, I went with the flow because I loved her home and I thought that I should do what she said, and what I liked I hadn't really seen anywhere else. The fact of the matter is, I waffled. I knew I didn't like anything she picked out, but I was too afraid to listen to my own voice, and I needed up spending a lot of money on things I didn't like at a time when there was really no disposable income. It was money I basically threw away. I had spent too many years listening to someone else about how things should be in my home.
I've had some people criticize that I change my house around all of the time, and they joke that it's never the same place twice, but sometimes I don't think it's in a nice way. Maybe almost critical. While part of that, I admit, is a love of decorating for me, another part of that is that our lives and needs as a family are constantly changing, so of course our home will change! And how do you find out what you really like if you don't ever try to find out? And it doesn't cost a lot to make some of those changes, sometimes adversity in the money department can bring out the best creativity.
While homes are just places to keep our "stuff" , they are important to our lives, and when you have a home that works for you, no matter what's it's size, it makes life much easier to live.
*I think we all have that voice and need to learn to trust it.
*We need to believe what we see. If a room is blue, but we keep ripping out pages of red walls, even if it's not popular, we need to trust what we want where we put our heads down at night.
* Our homes are reflections of us.. and you know what, it's all okay.
*We need to let it be okay to change things to how we like it, even if it's not what popular in magazines or on blogs.
*We need to not listen to people who say shouldn't or can't. Why can't we, it's our homes.
*Our homes should have function for how we live. Form follows function. And this lady it right, it does not have to be perfect to be beautiful.
*There shouldn't be decorating "rules" or "what's in and out", just guidelines. I read once that a group of designers made a list and toilet rugs were out. I admit they are gross. You know what's grosser? Kids who pee on your floor when they miss the toilet and now the grout is permanently stained... instead of a $12 toilet rug. That's gross.
* And freedom. We should have the freedom to not measure our selves or our homes up to anyone else; "because as many people there are in the world, is as many ways there are to live."
I didn't say that, but I wish I did.
I hope when we have our refreshing our room's link party February 6th, you are ready to take some risks, trust yourself, and make your home a place you truly love.